It's important to remember that it's not all on you. Whether you help a friend who may be struggling is your choice, and your mental health needs to be considered before making a decision.
Put yourself first - You can't help others until you have helped yourself
You can't pour from an empty cup
Actions speak louder than words
Sometimes all it can take to let your friend know that you are there for them is a hug, a cup of tea or just taking the time to sit with them. It doesn’t have to be a big gesture, you being there lets them know that you care. After someone has shared with you how they are feeling, they might be worried that you won’t want to spend time with them. Simple gestures can remind them that you are still their friend, and you can still do the things you used to do together.
Getting your friend help
It can be really hard knowing whether to tell an adult about how your friend is feeling. If you're not sure, speak up. Even though your friend may not appreciate it at the start, it is one step in the right direction to getting help. A trusted adult may be a parent, an older sibling, a teacher, a counsellor or another school support person. If you still aren't sure whether you should talk to someone about your friend, use our list of support networks below. They are free and confidential to contact, and will give you personalised advice (even if you aren't the one struggling).
Get help now
Australia's largest crisis hotline
Listen without judgement
Provide a safe space to discuss your worries, needs or concerns
Available 24/7, 365 days a year
Call service available at 13 11 14
Text service available at 0477 13 11 14
Support for children and young people
Available 24/7, 365 days a year
Call service available at 1800 55 1800
Online text service
Online group help services
Australia's young person mental health crisis hotline
24/7 services
Call service available at 1300 22 4636
Chat online service
Email service
Australia-wide emergency service
line
Available in rural areas
For emergency use only
Ability to dispatch police, ambulance and fire